06 Jan Mindset Mastery: Discernment vs. Fear
As much as I love the spiritual principle of discernment, I have to admit that sometimes my hesitation isn’t discernment at all. Sometimes it’s just fear. It’s the fear of things not working out according to plan. It’s fear of being a day late and a dollar short.
Have you ever felt stuck—trapped in the space between wanting more and fearing what it takes to get there? At the core of our hesitancy lies a simple, yet profound, truth: fear. Fear isn’t a monster hiding under the bed; it’s the quiet whisper that convinces us to stay in our comfort zones, even when they no longer serve us.
My thirty-one years of clinical practice has shown me that oftentimes what we’re really afraid of is the magnitude of our own power—intimidated by what we might achieve if we truly committed to our goals. What we call discernment is really that tiny voice that tells us it’s easier to stay small, to avoid the vulnerability of stepping into the unknown. Change demands solitude, reflection, and the courage to embrace our strengths, and let’s be honest—that’s scary.
Then there’s the fear of judgment. What if people misunderstand us? What if we face rejection or criticism? The potential for negative encounters keeps many of us frozen in place, unwilling to risk the sting of failure or the humiliation of setbacks. Even love, in its most beautiful and pure form, can feel overwhelming. To receive and return love fully is to expose ourselves completely—and that’s terrifying for so many.
But fear, as uncomfortable as it is, doesn’t have to be the villain of your story. It can be a guide. Fear shows you where your growth lives—it points directly to the areas where you have the most to gain. The trick isn’t to eradicate fear but to redefine your relationship with it.
6 Tips For Taking The Rein on Fear:
1. Name It to Tame It
Fear thrives in ambiguity. When you feel hesitant, ask yourself: What exactly am I afraid of? Is it failure? Judgment? Loneliness? Once you name the fear, it loses some of its power. It becomes a challenge to confront, not an invisible force controlling you.
2. Reframe the Risk
Instead of focusing on what could go wrong, shift your perspective to what could go right. Yes, stepping outside your comfort zone is risky, but staying where you are guarantees stagnation. What’s the greater loss?
3. Commit to Yourself
Fear often stems from uncertainty, especially about our ability to handle what comes next. Start small. Commit to one step, one change, one promise to yourself. The more you honor these commitments, the more you build trust in your own resilience.
4. Embrace the Power of Solitude
Change often requires solitude—a space to reflect, to disconnect from the noise of other people’s opinions, and to tune into your own voice. Solitude isn’t loneliness; it’s the fertile ground where transformation takes root.
5. Accept Imperfection
Here’s a secret: Nobody gets it right all the time. Every setback, every failure, every misstep is a lesson. It’s not the humiliation of falling that matters—it’s the courage to get back up and keep going.
6. Lean Into Love
Whether it’s self-love, romantic love, or the love you give and receive from friends and family, let love be your anchor. Yes, it’s vulnerable. Yes, it’s risky. But it’s also one of the most profound ways to heal and grow.
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You’ve felt fear before and I’m willing to bet that after taking time to reflect you didn’t let it stop you from doing what you really wanted to do. Fear will always be part of the journey, but it doesn’t have to hold the map. It’s time to take the reins. Step forward, even if it’s shaky. Feel the fear—and move anyway. Because on the other side of fear lies the life you’ve been looking for and the life that’s been waiting for you.
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Be well, be love(d), and be good to yourself,
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