Mindset Mastery: When Things Fall Apart

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Hello friend,

Have you ever had a day that made you want to crawl back in bed and start all over again? The kind of day that starts off right but then completely falls apart minute by minute?

I had that kind of day last week. Everything was lined up according to the most perfect plan and then, little by little and inch by inch, one thing after another fell apart.

My administrative assistant wasn’t feeling well and, quite understandably, said she needed to take the day off to recover.

One patient had to be sent to the hospital and another was at home in a crisis, while three new patients (with longer appointment times) were on the schedule to be seen. The pharmacy needed clarification on the new prescriptions we’d sent but we couldn’t get anyone on the phone. I was also waiting for a very important delivery at the office that had already been twice delayed.

As each new problem presented itself I started to feel an overwhelming sense of anxiety. A mental picture of complete chaos and disarray flooded my mind and I could feel my breathing getting increasingly more shallow. I started hurrying to try to put out at least one of the four blazing fires.

Immediately I started to complain about the schedule, then the pharmacy, then the rain that made me late. Looking at the clock and knowing all of the things I’d had planned, I felt annoyed by how many of those things just weren’t going to get done. If I didn’t catch up, I’d have to cancel the dinner plans I had scheduled. In no time at all, frustration set in and this one moment of chaos was projected onto the screen of my entire life. “I need a change,” I muttered to myself.

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In the ebb and flow of daily life, emotions often come and go like fleeting whispers, sometimes barely acknowledged before they dissipate into the ether. Yet, even these transient feelings carry profound lessons if we’re willing to listen. Each emotion, whether joy, sadness, anger, or fear, offers a window into our inner world, revealing our values, desires, and areas for growth.

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What I hope you will remember this week is that a bad day doesn’t mean a bad life.

A day filled with things that go wrong doesn’t mean there is something wrong with YOU.

A day filled with sudden change doesn’t mean there is something you need to change.

Take a moment this week to slow down and remember that just as suddenly as problems occur that change your emotions, solutions will appear that change them (for the better!) again.

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For Your Practice:

Developing a self-compassion practice is the key to designing the life that you desire and deserve.

Rather than being yanked around by your emotions and expending your mental energy on putting out fires, it’s important to develop a practice that helps you slow down to find and cherish the wisdom hidden within fleeting feelings, recognizing them as valuable teachers on your journey toward self-discovery and personal growth.

If fleeting emotions are starting to get the best of you and you want this to your breakthrough year of true personal growth and transformation, here are a few journal prompts to get you started:

1. Reflect on the Moment: When experiencing fleeting emotions, pause and reflect on the present moment. Journal about what triggered the emotion, how it feels in your body, and any thoughts or beliefs associated with it. Ask yourself: “What is this emotion trying to tell me about my current experience or needs?”
2. Embrace Impermanence: Explore the transient nature of emotions by journaling about your past experiences of fleeting feelings and knee-jerk reactions. Reflect on how they arose, evolved, and eventually faded away. Consider how this impermanence applies to your current emotions and what insights it offers about the temporary nature of both joy and sadness.
3. Cultivate Self-Compassion: Practice self-compassion by journaling about your response to fleeting emotions. Write a compassionate letter to yourself, acknowledging the validity of your feelings without judgment. Ask yourself: “How can I offer myself kindness and understanding in the face of these passing emotions?” Explore ways to nurture yourself through self-care, slowing down, and creating more positive self-talk.

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Remember that when it comes to your personal journal practice you don’t need perfect sentences nor perfect punctuation. You can scribble, erase, cross out and be as messy as you’d like. Your journal is for you.

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A life filled with self-compassion is waiting for you. All you need to do is slow down long enough to see it.

If you are a modern-day woman yearning for time and space to slow down and silence the impact of negative self-talk and fleeting emotions to get clear on what’s most important in your life, I invite you to join me in September for my second annual Design The Life You Deserve® retreat.

Early Bird Registration is officially open so hurry, there are only a few spaces available!

Want more info? Click reply to join me on a private call!

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Wishing you an amazing week friend,

Be well. Be love(d). Be good to yourself,